|My Take on Prop 8 and Elections|
My Take on Prop 8 and Elections
Nov. 12th, 2008 @ 07:27 am
I would like to share my experience on Prop 8.
Weeks ago, before the elections, I was campaigning to my mom to vote who I was endorsing. I later found out that night that she already did the absentee voting. She voted for McCain and voted YES on Prop 8.
I was furious! I had to explain to her what she and all my aunts just did. They all voted against me, my lesbian cousins, my gay uncle, my gay nephew, and my lesbian niece!
Yes, the gay gene runs in our family.
When the election results came, I was very happy for Obama. But I was so sad with the passing of Prop 8.
Ray and I already discussed this on bearpodcast and we still do. We hope we can have people on board to discuss their Prop 8 experiences.
This Saturday, my partner and I will go to city hall and participate in the protest. I will take pictures and videos and I will send it to my mom and sister to show them what they contributed to happen.
Suggestion: If you are going to protest this weekend, take pics and videos and send it to friends and family who voted Yes on Prop 8. I believe that would send a more personal message.
"Mom, this is what happened when you put that check in the wrong box on your absentee ballot."
Maynerd, there's so much anger toward your family in your post! I agree with your frustration and understand your feelings about how your relatives voted. The reason we have private voting is because people have different points of view. We try to educate people and to convince them that our position is the more favorable. It is a long, slow process. We don't coerce others into voting a certain way. We've seen more progress on gay rights in our lifetimes than through the entirety of history. I don't think antagonism is the way to go about that. People have a right to their personal position, and a right to vote in accord with that. Your mom didn't pass P8 by herself. Should she have to fear the wrath of her son for using her freedom? Is this the best way to change her mind?
I do like your idea of taking photos from the protest and sharing them with others.
People have come SO far in their thinking. They elected an African American man to the Presidency! But we shouldn't assume that because people have SOME progressive thinking, they are casting aside ALL of their old values. It takes time. Gentle time. We are going to get our way, more quickly than anyone would believe. In retrospect, it will look like the world suddenly became enlightened one day.
In the meantime, direct your anger-energy toward the "religious" organizations that financed P8. I'll join you in that one.
|Date:||November 12th, 2008 12:48 pm (UTC)|| |
Well, I've cooled down already and I am more frustrated now. I wasn't really coercing but I was campaigning. I felt like I didn't do much or I may have assumed they are more accepting.
Yeah I agree that in time, they would understand. I am dealing with very conservative Filipinas.
Maybe not this lifetime or maybe many years from now, we'll look back at this and laugh about how backward the world was.
Joe, thank you so much for your comment. It calmed me down. Hugz
Paul and I are going to be at the protest in Philadelphia...you'll certainly be seeing pics from that one...!
Just going by the Facebook "event" page for the Philly protest, there are over 800 people going to be there!
|Date:||November 12th, 2008 12:50 pm (UTC)|| |
Over here in Houston, I think they're expecting about 400. Perhaps we'll have thousands by Saturday.
You're very welcome. Now... show us your tits!
|Date:||November 12th, 2008 04:10 pm (UTC)|| |
LOL Ooooh I like the way you think :-)
Family and gay issues is a difficult one. My Mother still believes I choose to be gay and she believes I will get HIV because I'm gay. A part of me gets angry when I see all this ignorance, but yet at the same time I understand she's never been exposed to anything gay before.
2 years ago, my parents and my sister's family went to Provincetown, MA (gay mecca of the east) and they seem to be a little more progressive on the issue, but then again how much gayness can a straight person absorb since being gay is not necessarily something you can visual see. Part of me feels they need to be reminded regularly of it (preferable experience it in person); otherwise, its just something that comes up occasionally in their lives. Would experiencing it on a daily basis make it seem more aceptable to them? I don't know, but have been wondering about that lately.
|Date:||November 13th, 2008 12:56 pm (UTC)|| |
I think it would be nice if they meet Michael. They would realize that you are in good hands. Then it would sink into them. It's very slowly working for me.
Maybe, but my Mom looks at it more from the point that I've never been with a girl, so how do you know you don't like it? Plus, they alway bring up "Don't you wanna have kids?" or "People are going to hate you behind your back". Sometimes no matter how much talking you do it makes no difference and you just have to live your life without their approval. I've learned that early on in school when they expected A+ and I worked so hard and just got a B. I learned that if I'm happy with my life then that's all that matters.
I do agee that they should meet Michael though and I'm debating right now whether we should do that or not at Thanksgiving this year.
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